5 min read | One of our readers (EC in Australia) asked me to write about finding meaning in one’s job. As I’ve alluded to before, I’ve definitely tried a number of things and I’m proud to write that I bucked off a traditional career path about ten years ago, and have met a growing number of people along the way who have created similar paths for themselves (and they are not all wealthy; many are in or come from the middle class). …

The following poems speak to the puzzle of finding meaning in our lives:

There is no answer, and you know the answer.

— J. Andrew McKee, MD, “Meaning Koan” (July 2014)

“All day I think about it, then at night I say it.
Where did I come from, and what am I supposed to be doing?…”

Here’s a man we need to hear more about: happily married for forty years, still engaged in his kids’ lives, and able to balance work with exercise, family, and community. In our interview, he shares how he and his wife overcame a marital crisis, how he learned to cultivate balance and time for reflection, and how he transformed a potential career disaster into the mentoring opportunity of a lifetime. Rob is sixty years old and lives in Colorado. He and his wife Martha have three adult sons.

Please read to the end for a summary of life lessons based on the interview, and resources for further learning and practice you can try yourself. Please leave us a comment and share this with your friends.

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